There is a part inside most of us that feels worthy of only a certain amount of love, a certain amount of financial abundance, or success. And if we go beyond that, something old gets triggered.
This part is deep in the subconscious. It is primal. And it is very hard to become aware of with your conscious mind.
The quickest way to become aware of it is when all is going well in your life. Or when something happens that creates a genuine shift for the better. Maybe you experience deeper connection and intimacy in your love life, or a career opportunity arrives that you have been working towards.
And then, right when the initial excitement wears off, where does your body, mind, and heart return to? To what pattern of thinking, feeling, behaving?
For many it can be a negative thinking loop triggering a sense of unworthiness. For some it can be outright self-sabotage, pushing the good away, deeming oneself not ready, finding excuses.
There is an old reality, an old identity, an old way of thinking trying to re-assert itself. And often it tries to do this strongly.
The stronger it tries to regain control, the more it is proof that you are onto something. Whatever you are doing is creating a real shift. If it wasn’t, there would be no need for this level of unconscious resistance.
One of the most powerful things you can do is create safety for yourself in these moments. You can remind yourself:
I am safe experiencing this depth of love.
I am safe receiving more abundance and opportunity.
The parts resisting this are simply trying to survive. With each new reality you create, old parts have to go. That is the cycle of growth.
Reflect on this for a moment:
How much love are you allowed to receive?
How much abundance and opportunity are you allowed to receive?
This is a trick question, on purpose. Most likely you have never asked yourself this. If you journal about it honestly, you will notice all sorts of parts arising that you were not consciously aware of.
That is the subconscious part most people never see, because the energy you spend most of your time in becomes your home, your baseline.
Some people believe they have to arrive at some place of complete worthiness before the self-sabotage stops. That is just another way of pushing it away. This self-sabotage is expected. While uncomfortable, it points to you actively shifting something, shaking something loose. Before an old identity releases, it resists the hardest.
You don’t have to get to a specific belief or a specific way of thinking. You just have to stop identifying with the part that tries to interfere when more enters your life. More love. More abundance. More depth. More stability. More presence.
You see it. You recognize it for what it is. You take a breath. You feel your heart. And you choose to stay in the reality you actually want.
And when the negativity arises yet again? (And it will.) You make the choice again. And again. And again.
Bring grace to this. You don’t need to be finished with it, or to reach some perfect level of freedom. That kind of thinking just creates more limitation.
Keep returning. That is the work.
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