One of the biggest challenges for us men is to be present in the moment. And the truth is, most men don’t know how important being present actually is because no one has taught us.
For me, I did not really start to practice being present intentionally during the day until I experienced a lot of suffering as a consequence of my lack of presence. Before, I tried, and had short moments of awakening only to forget about it and be lost in my head again.
These consequences were: missing vital pieces of information (not listening) that later down the line led to arguments and cost time, energy, and having to solve a situation which did not even need solving in the first place. It also meant making my wife feel emotionally unsafe at times because I was not attuned to her emotional state.
A short moment of presence can literally save a relationship, and in fact, help a relationship thrive! Allow me to give an example:
Let’s say a woman is struggling with something. She expresses her struggle to her man. He hardly notices, doesn’t feel her (as he is not in touch with his own body), says something and moves on with his day. For her, if this happens once it will not be a huge deal, but if this happens many, many times, then one day arrives where she feels that she can no longer express her struggle, that she is not noticed, that her man is no longer IN the relationship – perhaps physically but not spiritually and emotionally.
And now on the contrary, if he is present, which always means being in touch with his body and heart, he can feel her, and he doesn’t even have to say anything! He might just take her in his arms, offer a gentle touch, or a few words from a state of presence and she immediately senses him energetically with her. The more moments like this, the more the relationship is going to thrive and the deeper the polarity and intimacy will be.
The practice of presence is not just some fancy idea that might be helpful, it is a total game changer. Apart from creating deep safety for the feminine, it allows us men to truly feel fulfilled, to receive the beauty, abundance and love that is in each moment. It allows us to experience life in an entirely different way. One that is deep and intensely powerful.
And even my words come short in highlighting how powerful the practice of presence is and what shifts it creates in one’s life and relationship.
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