Why Men Feel Like Boys

Most men still feel like boys deep down inside, even if they present externally as grown adults. This is not stated as a judgement, it is a mere fact. And it is not a man’s fault that he feels this way.

The transition phase from boyhood to manhood is crucial for a man. Yet in today’s society hardly any men have received support, or were initiated into that phase, which means it was never fully completed.

The little boy is still alive in most adult men, who are half a man, half a boy, trying to find their way in life but crippled by insecurities and a lack of safety within.

There is an ancient saying that goes:

‘For the man to be born, the boy has to die.’

This does not mean pushing the boy away, it means integrating the boy so he is no longer sabotaging our life as men, no longer getting in the way of serving our purpose and our relationships.

The boy within comes alive when we shut down in relationships, or when we become overly needy. The boy within comes alive when we sabotage our purpose, accept less than we deserve in our career, and don’t do what we know we need to, out of fear and feeling unworthy.

At the end of the day, the boy just wants to feel safe, wants to be integrated. So I invite all men to reframe their perspective of when the boy comes alive and they feel insecure within. Rather than judging yourself, you can see this as an opportunity to reclaim your power and step fully into your masculinity.

You integrate the boy when you learn to ground yourself amid challenging circumstances, challenging emotions, external pressures. Rather than caving in, and falling apart energetically, into a victim mindset, or going numb, you allow the awakened man to be born, and give him space to lead.

This is a deep process within you. Stepping up as a man starts with one decision.

The question is: How long are you going to allow the little boy within to run the show? To dictate your life? Know that you hold the power to integrate him, to create safety and security within yourself, and to unleash your masculine power.

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