When the Feminine Becomes a Man’s Drug

One of the main reasons why men struggle in relationships is because the feminine has become their drug to fill the void from the lack of safety and security they feel within.

It is not a man’s fault that this happens, but it is his responsibility to heal it. The reason why this happens is because most men did not have a safe masculine role model that showed them to be grounded, to feel safe and secure within. This creates a void. There are different ways men try to avoid feeling this void, yet often, it is through intimacy, validation, and approval of the feminine.

Women now become a man’s only source of love.

This puts way too much stress and responsibility on the woman. And it reverses the polarity because the feminine naturally yearns for stability and inner security from the masculine, whereas here the masculine is looking for safety in the feminine.

For instance, a deep experience in the bedroom can make a man feel on top of the world, his heart wide open, but it doesn’t take long for the old feelings of insecurity to creep back in. For many men, women then become the drug.

To be even more clear: intimate experiences with women serve as an incredibly strong source of validation and make a man feel secure for a short while, only for an even stronger crash to follow.

This will naturally make a woman feel unsafe, and will lead to distrust and disconnect.

The longer a man stays trapped in this dynamic the more he loses his power. Until eventually he has no spine anymore and his emotional state is at the total mercy of the feminine, making her feel unsafe around him and creating a vicious cycle of pain.

The answer for men is to start deep and powerful masculine embodiment practices to create internal safety and security, to be able to hold their internal world and emotional state without crumbling and needing to avoid or escape it.

Once a man feels secure within himself again, his relationship with the feminine transforms entirely as now he no longer needs her to feel safe, he can now love, relate, and show up from an authentically confident and powerful place allowing for deeper intimacy, connection, and safety.

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