In this feature for The Independent, journalist Olivia Petter explores why singles events are increasingly popular with women but struggle to attract male participants. Drawing from her experience hosting dating events, the article examines the growing imbalance between women eager to meet partners offline and men who often hesitate to attend such gatherings.
Relationship coach Lorin Krenn explains that pride and social conditioning can play a significant role. According to Lorin, many men carry an internalized belief that they should meet partners organically through confidence, status, or social magnetism. Attending a singles night can therefore feel, for some, like admitting failure or vulnerability.
The article highlights how these psychological barriers may discourage men from engaging in structured dating environments, even when they are interested in relationships. At the same time, it reflects on how evolving dating dynamics are leading more women to take proactive steps in creating spaces where meaningful connections can happen offline.